The famous martial artist Bruce Lee once said:
“Don’t speak negatively about yourself, even as a joke. Your body doesn’t know the difference. Words are energy and cast spells, that’s why it’s called spelling.”
It’s natural to get down on ourselves when we have failed at something in the past, or are fearful we will fail. When we repeat those negative phrases in our minds or out loud, we are in essence giving permission to our mind and body to let us down and fail at the thing we are trying to accomplish. Maybe it’s resisting sugar, finishing our workout, drawing a picture, or performing a dance. Whatever the thing is, we need to keep a positive mindset to achieve our best.
Here are some techniques to help you overcome negative thinking.
- Start by becoming aware that you are having these thoughts. It will help if you write down several of the most common ones you tend to get down on yourself with.
- Challenging the phrase. When that phrase pops in your mind like “you can’t do it,” “you always give up,” “you’re not good enough to have that,” reverse the language and add an additional point or two to tell your mind that you are worthy of it. If you tell yourself “you can’t do it” immediately say, “I can do it, and I love developing my skills.” Overpower your negative thoughts with positive ones.
- Be grateful for all progress and keep a record. When you measure your improvement at something, it becomes easier to stick to your routine and be positive.
Discuss: How can our family help each other stay positive minded and not “cast negative spells” on each other?
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